Imperfecto - Never regret it...
“Everyone’s
perfect in their own imperfect ways…”
It’s a busy day and you
rush between the crowd towards your classroom only to find yourself slipping
and falling down to the floor at the very next moment. Now if you had a power to
recap what happened second by second, then you could find yourself amused
because – at the very second when you realized you were falling down even
before you touched the ground, you were in the deep trauma about what the
people standing around would think and feel. So now once you have fallen down,
its obvious that you mostly care about how well composed you look rather than where
you have been hurt.
If it was the end then
there wouldn’t have been a necessity for this article to show up. There is a
sequel to this simple story where you go to class and think about who all were
present while you fell rather than listening to the lecture that your favorite
teacher is presenting. You invest so much of energy in thinking that the brain
starts heating up and you feel headache as soon as the class is finished and
pretend to take rest over the desk…
What went wrong there???
Did you really commit a
sin that no one in the world ever faced? Or was it you who complicated the
things???
The evolving civilization
fed us with so many ideologies that “wrong” became a sin and “mistake” became a
crime. Now being civilized would be to follow and maintain a decorum but does
it mean to hide your imperfectness. NEVER…
“I am not looking good”, “He
feels something wrong about me”, “Why don’t they talk much with me?”, “Why does
he always laugh at me?”, “Why am I so lazy and sluggish to go and talk with
everyone?” - If these thoughts have ever
popped up in your brain and have irritated you for a long time, then realize
that you are not the only one. Every person in this world has faced the same problem
and have found peace with it. These thoughts are sometimes tagged as “Overthinking”.
Why should we think about
something which we cannot literally control by our thoughts? (Unless we think
it can be done - sometimes being practical would help us stay on the ground)
CRITICAL THINKING
is something comparable to the power that we human beings have acquired all along
the evolution. The benefits that we derive from it has far more positive
consequences than what we usually desire for – and that’s how very few special people
jump out of the crowd in matters of analysis, management and critical thinking.
It does have a dark side – as every power is dynamic and goes wild if not
controlled, the critical thinking can also turn into bane (misery, poison) in our
lives.
It might seem very usual
that we have been hearing but many among us have faced it many times.
Overthinking could deplete the enthusiasm and the will to do something. But how
do you truly overcome it???
To be very clear, Brain
can multifunction but can lose its efficiency – so the answer is very simple,
just divert your attention towards something better than what you are feeling
now. If it was so easy as said, then why would lakhs of people face it every
day.
It comes down to 2 C’s. COMPARISON
and CONCLUSION.
Social life is a must to
the human society but is it truly meant in the digital life nowadays. How many
of us can honestly agree that opening Instagram and Whatsapp for refreshment
has made us more demotivated or miserable about our own selves.
Its not something wrong
again, unless you feel that saying out loud your mistakes is a sin. So,
agreeing doesn’t make you any lower than what you are today. Most of us do feel
it. It might be wrong to feel low while looking at the social media platforms
but it isn’t a sin. Its just that we are in a phase where we haven’t truly
understood ourselves.
Comparing our life with
the life of another is very common but coming into conclusion that you are
inferior or not upto that person – would be illogical. Its where we limit
ourselves. Its so contrasting that we get inspired by many philosophical
thinkers in Youtube for hours together and then find ourselves in the same low
phase in the Instagram and Whatsapp feeds…
EXPECTATION does play a
major role in adjusting our Self-esteem. We start to expect so much from us and
create an atmosphere of people expecting too much from us – such that we forget
what we actually have to do to achieve it. Its something where we float in the applauds
even before reaching the summit. So, with so many expectations and desires we
would also fail to understand that failure is a Betaal waiting to haunt us in
every move we make. And once when we fail, we go into our thoughts so much that
we don’t recover from many ill-things…
Learning to live with
humility is what we should all learn. If possible, we should start making our friends
circle where they know more about our bad habits than our good habits. Because many
people become close with you only because of your goodness, if a person stays
with you even after they have known your worst side – then never leave them
ever…
Its okay to not have good
many numbers of friends, it’s okay to not be fluent to speak, it’s okay to not
have good clothes to wear, it’s okay to fail many numbers of times, it’s okay
to fall again and again, it’s okay to do mistakes – Just remember that being
true to ourselves and saying our dark-side aloud to the people who care – could
be the best way to live a serene life anywhere…
It’s okay to be the
person you always are, never compromise anything for the sake of people looking
at you or watching you. Take the goods, listen to the bitching and keep moving
on…
-
Abhishek Hirewodeyar
As
always, if you feel connected to the words – don’t just keep it to yourself,
share and see how many people match with our thoughts…
{Dedicated
to my Bro who taught me to accept myself however hard it looks to be…}